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we are all one

OK, so i’m writing because i don’t feel like it. Don’t really feel like doing anything right now. Am in avoidance, or boredom, or whatever. So am writing in the hope that having the intention to share something of the Spirit means that I first need to receive of it. And I need some Spirit right now. So I’m doing something to get myself in the flow.

I have been reading this poem recently, as a few friends have recently graduated, and have wanted to share it, blog about it.

the lavender along the path at Prana - so briliantly bright purple at the moment

the lavender along the path at Prana - so briliantly bright purple at the moment

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I did not die.
- Mary Elizabeth Frye

Most times, anyone’s passing tends to remind me of my Mum’s passing. She died of ovarian cancer when I was 14, after an intense battle over 3 years. At times it’s still tender, and at times I’m so in the flow of the beauty and the grace of what an extraordinary experience that was; and is; of all the experiences that followed and follow; of all the strength, overcoming, forgiveness, trusting and loving I have come to know and am coming to know, in that process.

I remember someone asking me some years after my Mum had died, what was the greatest thing I had learnt through it all. And I remembered telling this friend, not really even knowing what it meant myself, it was more of an ethereal, abstract experience that I couldn’t give words to – but the closest words to describe it were – ‘That we are all one’. I had this huge expanding sense inside myself that there is no separation, that in the bigger picture, the greatest truth, we were all one.

And I try not to mentalize this process too much most times, but I am aware that in part it was the experience of true separation that enabled me to experience this oneness. This unity. It was the experience of feeling, thinking, believing that my life was so unfair, that I was in so much pain, that my life was so badly ruined and I was so badly hurt – that noone else could understand this pain, that I was separate, alone, and unable to be understood. I truly believed that others that had not been through such a journey could not know and relate to the pain, hurt and aloneness I felt.

And then I began to learn and to open to the possibility that everyone went through hurt. That everyone experienced pain. And that everyone was being dealt lives that in some way or another could be perceived as unfair or cruel. And you know there aren’t words to describe this part of the process. I don’t know how I got to this place. But I do know that the shift took place shortly after I began reading discourses and working consciously with my teacher John-Roger, and the Mystical Traveler consciousness.

I started wanting to have my Mum back in my life as a positive uplifting aspect, instead of enjoying wallowing around in my sinking sea of self pity. And of course no she would never be in my life physically again, but my relationship to her – the space inside of me, my thoughts, my feelings, my heartfelt experiences of her and with her – could stay full of pain and hurt – or I could perhaps have the joy, upliftment and love back that I used to have.

Perhaps this process is one of my best reference points for grace, for God, and the work of the Mystical Traveler. Because while I have mostly maintained a positive intention to reclaim a positive relationship with my Mum – I truly don’t feel like I’ve done the work, or done the processing / grieving / counseling, etc etc that I imagined it must take, and often seems to take others, in order to transform such a negative perspective – or negative relationship – into one filled with so much Light, joy and loving. So much positivity. So I of course I don’t know for sure the hows and the whys of all of this, but I get that it is through grace, through God, and the sweet divine blessing of having the Mystical Traveler help me clear my karma, that I somehow magically have a positive relationship with my Mum again. That much of the pain, the grieving has been cleared, without me consciously or actively really doing anything here physically to achieve that.

I’ve told this to people many times, and what it feels like to me, is that something gracefully, magically came in and simply cleaned out so much of the hurt, the pain, the karma relating to that part of my life, to my relationship with my Mum. And for this I thank J-R. And I thank John Morton. And I thank the Mystical Traveler.

And I am still in my process. I am still in the process of transforming the hurts into joy, of having the hurts transformed into joy: however all of that works. And I continue to ask that the grace of God, that the Christ and the Mystical Traveler continue to work with me in those wonderful, magical, invisible and completely woo-woo ways.

And I think John-Roger says it so perfectly, and describes our work so well in this quote:
“Look for the good in people and things, and all the rest leave to God.”

And as we come into Easter:
“The loving that you have for yourself and for one another is God’s love. There isn’t any other love. Your loving heart is God’s loving heart. Your body is God’s body. The God that you are is all the other ‘Gods’.
In God, you have your living and breathing, your coming in and going out, your death and your resurrection.” – John-Roger, from Loving Each Day

I love you all,
Zoe

And so I also just googled: ‘we are all one quantum physics’. As I have a fascination for the latest ways that quantum physics and the world of contemporary science are proving God, grace, and all things woo woo. And one of the first videos I found was the following, and includes John Hagelin, (one of the physicists from What the Bleep) and he shares that: “The deepest level of truth, uncovered by science and by philosophy, is the fundamental truth of unity. At that deepest sub-nuclear level of our reality – you and I are literally one.” We really are living in exciting times.
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green tea

Hey dear ones,

This is a super simple one, and depending on whether you like the taste or not, may or may not work for you :)

I got hooked on green tea when I lived in Japan. of course. And it did take me a while to not only get used to the taste but to actually be able to say yes I enjoy drinking this. But it did happen, and now I absolutely love it.

I’ve noticed often that people make green tea WAY TOO STRONG and hence it’s bitter and tastes awful. It should actually be a very faint yellowish green – not a murky dark green swamp like color :) This little hint can prove to be hugely helpful.

I just googled some of the health benefits of green tea, not to mention if you’re drinking green tea it usually means you’re NOT drinking coffee :)

To sum up, here are just some of the medical conditions in which drinking green tea has been (found via scientific research) to be helpful for:
cancer
rheumatoid arthritis
high cholesterol levels
cariovascular disease
infection
impaired immune function
tooth decay
symptoms from colds and influenza
obesity
liver disease
blood sugar regulation
inflammatory bowel disease
high colesterol

AMAZING wouldn’t you say :)

love you all,
Z

more information of all of the following medical conditions and how green tea may be helpful can be found in the following 2 links:

http://chinesefood.about.com/library/weekly/aa011400a.htm

http://www.umm.edu/altmed/articles/green-tea-000255.htm

it's a beautiful day

hey dear ones,

a thought for the day …
‘if you look for what is beautiful in everything that happens, you’ll find the secret of the great spiritual Masters, which is that everything is in its right and proper place, even if you cannot see it yet’
… from my favorite spiritual Master John-Roger.

today has been a truly great day, and an easy day. i feel truly blessed to have had the opportunity to really work with and study John-Roger’s teachings for almost 12 years now, and the honor of working closely with him on the movie Spiritual Warriors over the least 3 years. i feel like everyday, little by little i am able to see more of the perfection and beauty in all of life, and in all of MY life.

i was driving home from the movies tonight, still crying a little after seeing ‘Sunshine Cleaning’. movies that involve young kids having their Mum die can hit a tender spot with me, as my Mum died when i was 14. and while their is still sadness at times, i’m also comforted and inspired by my own journey – and truly amazed at how my life has transitioned, grown and expanded – from having to deal with my Mum’s death.

after my Mum died i wasn’t left with a very good support system or a lot of great resources. the following three years was a downward spiral of overeating that turned into bulimia which i had for 14 years; of drinking into frequent black outs, fainting and liver damage; and recreational drug use that escalated into hard drug addiction. before my Mum died i had the best grades in my year, was school captain, and excelled in sports, music and all areas of schooling. just four years after she died i was expelled from University, evicted from my rented house, and had alienated all my friends and replaced them exclusively with other drug users. this was my rock bottom – and this was the catalyst for me reaching out for help, for something that would help me get through all the things i was going through.

at this time i began a very simple course of study called ‘discourses’ and began to learn that my life and what happens to me is not in fact against me, or punishing me, or a random sequence of really unfortunate events. but with time, love and great spiritual assistance, i could begin to see the blessing, the goodness, the beauty in absolutely all parts of life – and begin to create a life of joy, peace, success and fulfilment … once again.

as i was driving home i was reminded of this journey, and just filled with gratitude and amazement, of how i can truly see my Mum’s death NOT as something that is against me, is unfortunte, or tragic. but a mysterious, magical part of God’s plan to teach me, to inspire me, to love me.

i know what love, life and family is, in a very intimate and special way.
i know i am strong, successful and can overcome seriously challenging and painful situations.
i know that all love, joy and peace must come from within, because if it can be taken away – it was never TRULY there to begin with. and it sounds harsh i know, but having the love and security of my Mum taken away – gave me the chance to get the love and security from myself – the love and protection from a deeper, higher, divine source.

it’s a beautiful day.
Zoe

Dr. John-Roger created ‘soul awareness discourses’ and this self-study program is available through msia.org/new
the quote above comes from John-Roger’s book ‘The Path to Mastership’.
This Free Healthy Wealthy Happy Daily Idea was sent or posted by me, zoe goLightly. I post every Free Daily Idea at www.zoegolightly.wordpress.com and my facebook blog: http://bit.ly/FU7MK and I distribute them through my facebook group ‘Free Healthy Wealthy Happy Ideas Daily’ http://bit.ly/nvbG1 | I created this group as a way for us to share our ideas about living with more health, wealth and happiness with 2 purposes in mind: 1) to create an excellent free daily subscription that is created by its followers and completely non-profit, and 2) to support, empower and promote each other and all the great work we are doing by sharing brief details about each daily idea’s author | If you have an idea for us I’d love to hear from you zoegolightly@gmail.com | Be my facebookfriend http://bit.ly/GNnPg and follow me at twitter.com/zoegolightly | Much love and Light to you all, zoe goLightly

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do you think you're beautiful?

hey dear ones,

so our idea today comes from Scotland … i recently connected with the wonderfully inspiring Claudia van Zuiden and here’s what she wrote for us:

‘Let today be the day that you completely surrender to your Inner Beauty.
Know that you are unique, that there is no one else like you. That you have so many special qualities, and let today be the day that you feel those. Praise yourself for those Inner Beauties, those treasures that you can share with others. We are all connected, and we will always meet people on our way that we have a connection with on whatever level. Some people will come on our path to learn from us, some others we can help, it is a beautiful Circle of Life.’

i just love how this is working in my own life right now. i’ve been really working with the idea of beauty and embracing and claiming it in my life in a very active, conscious way.

perhaps like a lot of us, i felt ugly and fat in high school. after my Mum died at 14 i really shut down and kind of stopped caring about so many things – myself being one of them. i look at photos of that time in my life and i see a very brave and very determined young woman trying to deal with all that’s going on around her – determined to be ok, but also determined not to have to deal with the pain and grief that was inside. i closed down inside – i closed down to what i was experiencing inside me.

i am grateful i have found ways and people to help me gently and gracefully become aware of then start to deal with the pain of that time – and i remember the first time i was able to share with others about my Mum dying – that day – that experience – and it was messy, and it was painful, but it felt like something that was dead inside came alive again.

i truly believe that life is continually bringing us our own answers – so if you have something inside that you are wanting to deal with – the Universe will bring you your answers in letting go of that. so have a clear intention of what you want in that way and then pay attention – the Universe will begin to bring you your answers shortly …

as you can tell sharing intimate details about my life is now not something i shy away from – perhaps it’s because of my experiences of many years being unable to share or express my feelings, or my inner process. i know what my life was like when i was unable to share my truth and my true self with other people. and I now know my life as a sharing, open, vulnerable and truly beautiful young woman.

through tears i can’t explain to you the difference, but i can tell you i am now dedicated to getting to know myself, and being able to share all parts of me openly and freely with the world. there is no part of me that is not lovable, is not ok, and is not beautiful.

i love you all,
Zoe

Claudia van Zuiden has an incredible group called Wo’Moon Circle of One – dedicated to helping others to explore and reunite with their true selves – God Bless You Claudia for your incredible work – all around the world
https://ww.inner-melodies.4t.com ;)

and for my own personal process, www.msia.org has and is the biggest key for me – and a magical journey called ‘soul awareness discourses’ – https://secure.msia.org/im_new/offer.phtml ;)

This Free Healthy Wealthy Happy Daily Idea was sent or posted by me, zoe goLightly. I post every Free Daily Idea at www.zoegolightly.wordpress.com and my facebook blog: http://bit.ly/FU7MK and I distribute them through my facebook group ‘Free Healthy Wealthy Happy Ideas Daily’ http://bit.ly/nvbG1 | I created this group as a way for us to share our ideas about living with more health, wealth and happiness with 2 purposes in mind: 1) to create an excellent free daily subscription that is created by its followers and completely non-profit, and 2) to support, empower and promote each other and all the great work we are doing by sharing brief details about each daily idea’s author | If you have an idea for us I’d love to hear from you zoegolightly@gmail.com | Be my facebookfriend http://bit.ly/GNnPg and follow me at twitter.com/zoegolightly ;) | Much love and Light to you all, zoe goLightly

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it's all good mate, it's all good

hey dear ones,

so I have a friend Grace Allison in Dallas, Texas. we’ve never met, but we email often, and for a few years now we’ve been emailing each other conscious marketing / business ideas or websites, as we’re both passionate about our work in similar professions. she recently sent me this great article she has written about stress, and how we can make some simple changes to change how stress affects our body and our wellness.

i’ve included the full article below, and my own personal story about how these idea has worked in my life.

it has been proven that the ‘stress’ we experience is not determined by the events that happen to us, but IN OUR RESPONSE to those events. and for me, there is one idea, one universal law, that if i can remember and hold onto this idea in ‘stressful times’, i can usually bypass myself a lot of unecessary stress, pain and dis-ease …

‘everything not only happens for a reason, but everything happens for a GOOD reason’. and the Australian translation that i’m personally more familiar with: ‘it’s all good mate, it’s all good’.

i don’t think any of us can fully comprehend or really understand what this truly means – i mean to look at all the challenging, even devastating things that happen in life, it’s quite a jump sometimes to be able to line up with ‘oh yeah this is good for me. i get the higher purpose here’. and sometimes there’s grieving, some pain in getting to that other side, but the quicker we can make that jump – not only the happier we will be, but the less stress and dis-ease we are bringing into our lives.

i have experienced my life very clearly living both sides of the coin … when my mum died when i was 14, i was left with an abusive step father, and no other support. i developed bulimia, then drug addiction, then rock bottom, and i had to find another way of relating to my life. the unconscious attitude i had was this really just IS NOT FAIR. i felt i had been dealt the absolute worst hand of cards, and i wanted the dealer to deal again. i then began my voyage of self-discovery, and my work with John-Roger, and began to not only understand but to experience – all these things in my life have been given to me with reasons, and purposes, and for me to create greater goodness, joy and peace in the world. and now i use them, maybe every day, to create, inspire and share the amazing lessons those experiences have taught me … and well that’s a whole other email :-)

and one last part of this rather personal pep talk for today ;-) … if you’re still not buying there is a positive side to all of lifes many crazy events, consider this: whatever has happened, HAS HAPPENED. so now your choice is, do i have a good attitude about this and make the situation better, or do i create further misery with attracting further negativity to myself. really it doesn’t matter why things occur when you think about it, but what does matter is how we approach and try to overcome, move on from, cooperate with, and learn from those lessons life is handing us.

so if there’s one easy, simple trick i can leave you with today, it’s remember: ‘it’s all good mate, it’s all good’ … your new mantra for a healthier, happier life ;-)

so enjoy this article from Grace Allison, and see you tomorrow!
much love and Light,
Zoe

Understanding Stress
By Grace Allison, Wellness Coach

Stress is one of the most often-used words today. But just what is stress and exactly how does it affect us? Let us begin with the definition of stress. Stress is a response of the body to stimuli. Noise, or heat or cold are not stresses. This means that if your neighbor is playing his stereo at full volume, but you have excellent earplugs, there is no stress. There is stress only if you respond. The impact of any event or stimulus depends on how you respond (or don’t respond) to it.

Events that create stress are called stressors. Many people think that all stressors come from outside ourselves. In fact, stress-producing events can be internal and external. Internal stressors include the condition of our body chemistry, brain function, fatigue, attitudes, emotions, and thoughts. External stressors are the outside events, people, situations, finances, love, etc. The distinction between internal and external stress is critical for two reasons:
· One can control the internal cause of stress.
· By correcting the internal cause of stress, adaptive energy is made available to handle external causes of stress. In fact, that is the only way to improve one’s ability to cope with events from outside over which one has little control.

That is why religions have suggested attitudes of gratitude, grace and faith, in order to handle difficult situations. These attitudes are useful because they reduce one’s susceptibility to external stress-producing events.

Natural healing procedures are used to reduce internal stress. This stress maybe due to vitamin deficiencies, the presence of toxic metals, infections, structural imbalances, energetic or emotional blockages, and other conditions. Correcting these internal stressors increases energy levels and enables one to better cope with external events.

Some people are under the misconception that all stress is “bad”. Nothing could be further from the truth. Dr. Hans Selye, who originated the stress theory of disease, wrote a book entitled “Stress without Distress”. He explained the idea that certain kinds of stress are essential for health. These range from physical exercise which keeps our bones and muscles strong, to mental stress or stimulation which keeps us mentally alert, and appears to help avoid senility.

Physical and psychological healing therapies intentionally apply a ‘positive stressor’ to the client in order to assist healing. The ‘good’ stressor may be a chiropractic adjustment, a massage, a new diet, vitamin supplements, or spoken words. These may be felt at first as stressful, but if applied correctly result in a positive change.

Because stress is a response that depends on how one reacts, the same event may cause in one person, but cause no stress in another. For example, one person may adore being around cats, while another person is allergic to cat hair and feels miserable around cats.
The simplistic example illustrates the principle that the stress response is individual, depending on what each person responds to. One’s physical or psychological make-up can protect or make one vulnerable to particular events. Of course, some stimuli affect everyone – starvation, radiation, cyanide poisoning – although individual variation exists to some extent in these instances.

In a sense, we define ourselves by what we respond to; whether it be famine in Ethiopia, the stock market, sports scores, a bird singing, a sunny day, etc. Many times in order to achieve health and happiness, what must change are the events that we respond to. We tend to become like that to which we respond. The person who responds to the TV news tends to be shaped by that stimulus. Another is more shaped by what his friends tell him. Becoming a mature person involves finding those situations which are healthful stressors for us, even though they may not be ideal for another. Much disease and unhappiness is produced because we either conform to or rebel against the dictates of parents and teachers as to how and to what we ought to respond.

A type of stress that is not often discussed is spiritual stress. A spiritual stress is one that causes us to change or adapt in a way that improves our character and makes us a better person. For example, some people respond to truth. They seek the truth in their activities, and they guide their life by it as much as possible. Responding to the truth is a powerful positive stressor. It can certainly cause some upset, as people and events are revealed for what they really are. But it leads to an enhancement and strengthening of character as long as one seeks and follows what is revealed as truth.

Many religions recommend techniques such as prayer and meditation. If practiced correctly, these activities as stressors that increase self-discipline, awareness and deceptiveness to the truth. Taking full responsibility for our actions, responding to our conscience, and doing what is correct in every situation no matter what the consequences, are other positive spiritual stressors. Potentially harmful stressors include doing what is expedient, what ‘feels good’, or setting out to please people.

In summary, stress is not due to events, but to your response to events. Most response is conditioned. This is why you feel trapped by stress. If you correct internal stressors (imbalances inside the body and mind) you will be more able to handle all kinds of external stress. You always become like that to which you respond. You can choose to respond to ‘positive’ physical, emotional, and spiritual stressors that have powerful beneficial effects on both mind and body.

Grace Allison is a successful wellness, business development and marketing coach. She has faced many life challenges, including a life-threatening disease, and used what she encountered as a stimulus to gain greater happiness and fulfillment. She lives in Dallas, Texas, where she leads workshops and maintains a private health and success coaching practice. Contact grace_allison@yahoo.com for more information regarding her health and wellness practice.

This Free Healthy Wealthy Happy Daily Idea was sent or posted by me, zoe goLightly. I post every Free Daily Idea at www.zoegolightly.wordpress.com and my facebook blog: http://bit.ly/FU7MK and I distribute them through my facebook group ‘Free Healthy Wealthy Happy Ideas Daily’ http://bit.ly/nvbG1 | I created this group as a way for us to share our ideas about living with more health, wealth and happiness with 2 purposes in mind: 1) to create an excellent free daily subscription that is created by its followers and completely non-profit, and 2) to support, empower and promote each other and all the great work we are doing by sharing brief details about each daily idea’s author | If you have an idea for us I’d love to hear from you zoegolightly@gmail.com | Be my facebookfriend http://bit.ly/GNnPg and follow me at twitter.com/zoegolightly ;) | Much love and Light to you all, zoe goLightly

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